WAWs or Wayward M: How to SHOW change is afoot?

[MrBond]

"DB Continuing: I also read on another thread the idea of "Don't believe anything they say"

That's in the book. The fact that you took it as something you read on a thread leads me to believe that you never read the books. Did you? You said you did it in your first situation, but it doesn't seem like you got it.

"So... why are the crazy belligerence towards me for wanting to offer SOME indication to my Ex about how things could get better? Or for not totally believing her when she says she doesn't want to have anything to do with me? "

Because you are missing the whole point of what everyone is telling you. All of that is about YOU and what YOU want. You've only been at this for a couple of months. You haven't changed. Period.

If you did, you wouldn't have created a letter that was so self-centered. Or to put it another way... you put your d*ck in another woman for one and a half years. Not a one night stand, but YEARS. And now you want to have her happily put it in her. You're right. She should be worshipping how much you changed.

I'll tell you what. Go ahead and send the letter without all of the edits that people have recommended you make. Send it as is. I mean, you say that you HAVE to tell her right? After all, what we tell you are just suggestions. You are the one who has to ultimately pull the trigger.

As you said, you have "nothing" to lose so go ahead and send it. I'm sure she'll appreciate it how much you've sacrificed and changed in two months. And I'm being totally sincere. You have to know one way or another, right or it'll "kill" you since you can't take the pain. I'm sure she's totally happy and not in pain from what happened to her.

Go ahead.