Dealing with ongoing affair -which may now be over

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I spent a lot of time with her this past weekend. She went out on Friday evening with one of our departing employees for a farewell dinner so I stayed at the RH until she returned. On Saturday night she went to a friend's wedding reception so I stayed again at the RH until she returned which was earlier than I expected. And she woke me up this morning by calling me to see how I was doing. Then I went over and cooked her brunch and we worked on stuff all day, had dinner together and I gave her a foot massage before I left which made her feel very good and we kissed goodbye. She called me later and we spoke for an hour on the phone. All seems good. But I still need to compose that letter.

I just need to keep up the positive interactions and help her through her difficult moments with positive gestures.

Funny, I talked to a friend who just split up with his partner because he cheated on her. He was telling me the drama and I gave him a number of tips and advice. He said to me that I seem to know a lot about this sort of thing and that what I was saying is exactly what he read in a book by Wilbur Harvey. I didn't tell him about DR but did tell him it may take up to 5 years to regain her trust. Sometime explaining things to others helps me to learn it better myself. Teaching is learning.


A very positive weekend.