if you don't keep to your promise you will come off like a push over.
Agreed.
It sounds like you're feeling a little defeated tonight, and I can fully understand why you would feel that way, Tarheel.
If I could offer you just one little piece of "advice," it'd be to put fear behind you and operate, instead, from a place of confidence and strength and resolve ... even if it takes everything you've got to put on that front.
It's not over 'til it's over.
Let W see - through your actions - that you say what you mean and mean what you say.
No fear.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014