I'd see what BIL is needing. It may be that he needs a friend since FIL is an @$$ and has taken your W to the dark side. I'd be there to support him as a friend/family, but I wouldn't get involved with anything!!
Atsbaby M:36 H:35 T: 19 M:12 S:11 D:9 BD: 5/4/14 Proof of OW 8/13/14-love note from her 8/19 admits OW 8/22/14 files D w/o telling me 9/20/14 Says he wants to reconcile