So true BigMac. I find that the 180s have helped me to see ways I could grow and change. GAL is no problem, I always have a super busy social life and lots of fun activities. But looking at things WAH criticized or that I didn't like about myself made me really think and want to change. And these changes or potential changes have given me a lot of excitement and confidence. That's why I say I am grateful for the kick in the pants WAH gave me. It made me wake up and see some areas in my life I was not happy with, some of them related to him!
Made a mistake earlier today. I have stopped spying for the most part and it helps so much with feeling better. But today I looked at his FB page and saw a bunch of things that made me feel horrible. Instantly I was no longer the confident person with the positive outlook. I see he has new "friends" who are obviously girls he is dating. And he is happily posting about how he has moved into a new house and that sort of thing. The OW/exOW and the new dates are liking all his posts and photos, and he is liking theirs. I did not need to see all that. It made me sick. (interestingly he is not liking anything I post)
So my DB friends, let that be a lesson to you. Don't spy! It just makes you feel bad. Even when you are feeling good!
Sigh.
Hugs, LisaB
Me: 34 H: 30 M: 4 years BD: 6/15/14 He moved out 6/30/14 OW1: EA then PA after BD Now he's dating multiple OWs I'm over it and moving on.
