About what your D9 said from last thread...my D19 has told me that as soon as her mom is gone for a while and the "fun" of getting her new place all set up and getting all the attention from her friends and co-workers, she is going to regret what she has done. She is going to find out that "happiness" isn't about where you live, it's about what you do, the decisions you make. Pretty deep stuff from a girl who just got out of HS a couple months ago! I am so very proud of my D's. They are turning into excellent adults sooner than I imagine they expected to need to.

We are all going through so much on here. So much pain, so much disbelief (at least at first), so much betrayal and craziness. In the end, it's the kids that are the biggest "victims" of MLC. In my W's case, knowing what I do about what most likely caused her crisis (her fathers abandonment when she was only 10), I can't help but think that it's just a continuation of bad choices made by others long ago and that somehow, someway the cycle has to come to an end. It's like my FIL not only destroyed his own family but mine as well. I pray every day that their mothers choices don't destroy my D's families as well.

What I'm going through is hard, it hurts some days and a little less others but it's what my D's have been and are being put through every day that is the biggest tragedy of all that our S's are doing. When we have kids we make a promise. We promise to put their needs ahead of our own, to make sacrifices at least until they are able to live on their own. When a M/F is in MLC, they can't think about what is best for anyone else, not even their own children. This, at least for me, is the biggest thing about my sitch that will be hard to forgive and forget, whether my W wakes up later or not. Of course they are the biggest reason that I have for moving forward, with or without my W. It's up to me to break the cycle in the hopes that my D's won't have MLC's of their own some day. Some days, it's the only thing that keeps me going.

OK, that's enough of the serious stuff! Time to get in a better mood!