WAWs or Wayward M: How to SHOW change is afoot?

[DBinSF]

1) I am looking for a magic bullet. You got me there.

2) I have indeed taken your advice...

You rewrote my birthday message response.
I'm GALing.
I'm leaving her alone.

3) I'm also trying to get feedback from more people in the community. I went back and read some early posts to BOND's original sitch, and some people were like, "Yes, I'd like to hear how my H would make things better, even if I angrily denied it."

I feel like I'm not getting much feedback from men who were in my exact situation and made it work, or from women who were in my Ex's situation and forgave. Or am I completely mis-reading people's stories?

I'm mainly getting told what to do, and not a whole lot of "Here's what worked for me." I respond much better to the latter.