I feel your pain about having to say "we are separated" when people accidentally loop you into a conversation together,

One thing that has helped me to hurt less while answering is to have a standard response.

Mine is -

We are separated. We have been best friends for 14 years, and I hope to be friends for the next 14.

I know it hurts, it will hurt for a while. But every day it hurts just a little less. There is hope.

Me: 35
Her: 33
D : 16
S : 9
Together: 14 years
Married: 12
She left 4/14/2014
Separated: 5/25/2014
OM Confirmed 7/2014
She filed 8/7/2014
I Filed 10/21/2014
Divorce final 2/12/2015