2.5 Months After D-day...and I wait

[DBinSF]

Bond, I went back and read your early posts. I didn't realize it was your W who had the affair.

You asked at one point:

Hey whatdidido,

I have a question: When you were doubting your relationship, if your spouse had offered you any information about how things could get better, would you have gotten angrier at him for pursuing or would a part of you listened to them with a grain of salt?
_________________________

Whatdidido Responded:

Part of me would have definitely listened. Deep down I wanted something to give me hope. I may have responded negatively but I would have listened. So, in other words, I may have shown anger, but I would have been glad, in the end, to have the information.

It's your job to help her see that there IS hope. She can't see it. You can.

You have to look at your situation and know when the timing is good. You have to give the information without anger or a "guilt trip" even if she gets angry at you.

END
----------------

DB Continuing: I also read on another thread the idea of "Don't believe anything they say"

So... why are the crazy belligerence towards me for wanting to offer SOME indication to my Ex about how things could get better? Or for not totally believing her when she says she doesn't want to have anything to do with me?

Thx,
DB