1st post. Long but please read, help!

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Zues,

You've already come a long way by realizing you've abandoned yourself. Inner Bonding then talks about what to do to reconnect to yourself. Good luck with it! I still abandon myself at times too but have gotten better at not letting it happen. I try to honor my inner child (my feelings) and then take action on behalf of what I am feeling. MC helped me to identify my feelings; Inner Bonding then helped me figure out what to DO about those feelings.

Also, thanks for reading through my thread. I agree that my H is after a fantasy, as do all of the friends I've told about my situation and as do a number of his friends who have reached out to me. I just don't know what to do about it, but I guess the answer is nothing. Like Ss said, I have to just hope that one day he'll figure out that what he's after doesn't really exist. His sister has been pushing him hard to date (even though she and I had been staying in contact and she knew that I would be upset by this recommendation) so he can see if he has that romantic spark with anyone the way he believes he will. I know that most people on the boards have been stipulating to their WASs that because they're still married, no outside dating is allowed, but in my case, I kind of think he's going to have to, otherwise, even if we were to R, he'd always believe he's missing out on something.

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