1st post. Long but please read, help!

[GoatGal]

Zues,

Thanks for the very thoughtful post above ^^^.

Your statement about fantasy being so seductive is spot on.
It will never fix what's broken, and it's not real.

Unfortunately, my H continues to chase the fantasy of the "Right Person" being able to make him completely different, and make all his issues disappear.

More than blaming me for what went wrong in our M, he seems to believe that if I had been the "Right" person, we would not have had any problems.

Thanks for wording it in such a comprehensible way!

---GGG