You're really speaking to me here, man. I feel like I was meant to read your most recent post because I feel like you're stating a lot of what my H hasn't yet discovered about himself (like my mind reading?). He has a fantasy of what marriage is supposed to be and I firmly believe he thinks it's supposed to fix what's broken in both people. Ours didn't do that so he wants out. I can't teach him otherwise so I can only hope that he can be as introspective as you are.