Doing all right

[BrightFuture]

Thanks everyone, Ss06, Bea, Job and NLT, for telling me that I didn’t do anything to cause this behavior. I kind of knew that, but could not help to think that it must have been so awful for him to have a R with me.

My guess is that maybe the work has not been going that great for him, and this condo is kind of a reminder that he still needs to work for a long time in order to pay for it.

I also think that his personal life is not getting anywhere. The grass is not getting greener. NLT, you are right, he hasn’t filed for D yet. But, I think there are some other factors why he is not doing it, besides being afraid to cut the last tie to me. He is afraid that the D would me messy, that I would divide everything and he will be in even worse situation. At least now he has this condo he can live in and have me as a backup in case he cannot pay for it. He also tries to avoid any confrontation at any cost, and I think he doesn’t want to look like a fool in front of people.

NLT, it great to hear from you! I was wondering how you’ve been. You are absolutely welcome to post here any time. I hope you will get replies from the vets as well. I don’t mind it at all. And it would be beneficial for me too.

So, there is a trouble in paradise. I chuckled about the brown grocery bags with the cloths. Yes, I can see why he is hesitant to hit ow upside the head with 2x4. It might prompt her to take another trip on a kayak, LOL.

I’m glad that you see some positive changes in him. He might be coming around, but it could take a long time. All you need to do is to have patience.