Update:

W asked me yesterday if I had plans (as she picked up S) I told her I infact did. I told her I would be going to church and she was free to join me ... she replied she would like that and asked if we could pick up a redbox movie after. I actually had a couple birthday parties that night I was invited to ... but honestly was tired and figured ... ok she invited me, I told her that sounded nice. So after church we discussed movie options .. I went and picked the movie up as she grabbed some groceries. We watched the movie and my son and I played a little bit during (I had already seen the movie but knew she would enjoy it) .... as typical she fell asleep during .. as she always does. So I got my S ready for bed .. brushed and prayed with him ... woke her up and told her he was in bed and I would see her tomorrow at his Dr appt. ... she asked me if everything was ok, apologized for falling asleep, I validated her and told her everything was fine (as it was) and I knew she must be exhausted after the week.
SO I am home falling asleep and the TM exchange was interesting:

W: I just read something and it dawned on me all the mistakes I've made with you I'm sorry for being controlling, for hating you, blaming everything on you.

Me: Ive made alot of mistakes too (I should have validated here looking back at it)

W:I'm not asking you to bring yours up. I'm just apologizing

Me: I know apologizing is hard for you. Thank you

W Its a step, I've screwed up a boatload. I'm going to go to mass (Different church as she shared she was not connecting at our after the change in priests .. something we had discussed before)

I fell asleep ... this morning she told me she was getting school supplies for our S .. I offered to help .. she replied "yes please"

Not having expectations .. so much work to be done .. but its a positive .. baby steps


M: 48
W: 47
M16 T26-S8
BD Sept13