Wonk,

"Sexual sobriety" means being faithful. It's having no sexual relations or intrigue with anyone outside the relationship. Yes, "integrous" means men with integrity - although it might be a made up word. The apartment was the scene of the crime.

And Unbidden,

If I had any lines of communication open with her, I would ask her. She wrote me an honest and compassionate note on my birthday at the beginning of the month, and I haven't heard from her since. Two months ago I asked her what she needed, and she said angrily that she wanted nothing to do with me. I've been told on here "That is obviously what she wants!" but I know we all say very harsh things in anger.

ALSO, I was answering specific questions from Maybell about my process.

Thanks,
DB


Me: 39 - W: 35
Together: 2 years, no kids
My Affair: 1.5 years
Affair ended: 4/9/14
Affair revealed: 5/19/14
Last Contact: 8/2/14