Maybell, are these the questions you suggest I answer?
"From her perspective, what could you possibly offer her in the way of safety? What reason would she have for entrusting her future children to you?"
What I can offer her in the way of safety is 130 days of sexual sobriety, a solid program with my sponsor, a deeper relationship with the integrous men in my life, a cleaning house of all the "morally ambiguous" friends I had (bad influences), getting rid of my apartment, getting a fulltime job (less free time during the day which is when the affair happened), and an on going regular practice of meditation, therapy, and gratitude journaling.
What reason would she have for entrusting her kids to me? She knows and has said repeatedly that she knows I'll be an amazing father. My deepening commitment to Alateen, my active sponsoring of two teens, my chair position as the head of their annual conference all speak well to that. Also, I am willing to put my adolescent "dreams" of fame and fortune away and accept the fact that I'm just a man line any other, and that I will need to get a regularly paying job and stop this non-stop attempt at "entrepreneurship." I will become an amazing, stable PROVIDER.
What other questions did you have?
Me: 39 - W: 35 Together: 2 years, no kids My Affair: 1.5 years Affair ended: 4/9/14 Affair revealed: 5/19/14 Last Contact: 8/2/14