Watto, yes that text was just inviting him to eat cake.... (and I should know I let h do it for a long time)
It is much easier said than done and MUCH easier to see in other people's situations than when you are emotionally involved with your own..... I had a very hard time between saying "no make believe happy family time" and letting it happen for the kids and thinking it would eventually make OW go bonkers.
It never did make OW go bonkers, actually she was always just fine with it and questioned H when he didn't do that kind of stuff.... SO, I guess what I am saying is (again I know hard as he'll) a firmer/we are not friends stance is needed.
It needs to be clear you will not be waiting for him on days he wants you and go away on days he doesn't. Be the door, not the door mat!!
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
