Quick update...Friday night started our vacation, we went to dinner with the kids and had a great time. The kids ran around outside the restaurant after dinner giving my W and me time to chat. She asked about the changes she had seen in me and wondered why it took get asking for a D to cause this to happen. I owned that answer. She then said again that she is trying to change get feelings towards me and that if she could, she would. We ended the night watching tv with tyre kids and my W laying on me (on a pillow) on the couch. She commented that we have not done "this" in a while.
We went to yoga together the next day and then took separate cars to the cape. Try as she might my W was not able to move her meetings in NYC so she had to be there Monday-Wednesday of this week. My W beat me to the Cape (I had my D10 in my car and we stopped at IHOP for lunch, I never do this, I always am the one who would race to where we are going and would never stop to do anything. My W got to the resort, checked us in and sent me a text that "she and S7 were at the pool and she had a IPA (beer) waiting for me. When I got there she said that this place felt like a vacation and that we should stay longer so I called the front desk and extended our time by three more nights. We had fun as a family all day and had a great dinner.
However my W left last night (Saturday) to drive back to our house because she needs to be in NYC Sunday night...her first meeting is 8am in NYC with the CEO of her company, while I don't love that before the A I would not have thought anything of this. So is she still having the A? No idea, I cannot focus on that I do know that she wanted to stay with us on the cape and said that she wished that I had not sprung the vacation on her. She just could not change her work schedule.
I know she resents me a bit for this which was not my goal. But I needed the vacation and needed to move forward. So the next few days it will be the kids and me, will focus on them and being a great father.
Me: 40, W: 40 M: 15, T: 18 D - 10, S - 7 D announcement 6/7/2014 A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W) Still living together and sharing same bed