MY TRAGIC WAW STORY PART III

[ItHurts]

Thanks Mr. Bond and thanks for that lengthy reply Pilot.

I suppose you are right. I should keep dating her. I am just so used to going NC when things start to look bleak. I do indeed see her out of her "fog" now, at least as it pertains to me. You make some great points. I mean at this point what have I got to lose? As you say, if she moves either way...with me in NC or me dating her...she still moves...so she might as well have something to miss. You're right, I don't think me ignoring her will help at this point.

Maybe this is why people who know WAW are telling me to spend time with her now. Two months ago she avoided me like the plague, now she is receptive to hanging out. I do have a birthday coming up and I am willing to bet she will have contacted me for that anyway. I guess now I have to eat crow and contact her. As you say what have I got to lose? You hit the nail on the head in one area...WAW herself said that's one of her fears...that she's worried if she stays she will eventually have resentment towards me for not trying this move.

I think what you are saying is that I need to make sure I remain a big factor in her mind...and by going NC for the next 6 weeks before she leaves is probably not the best way to do that. She will only have another reason to get the hell out of Dodge. Plus there's still so much more she needs to see. She has been blown away by how different she knows things would be with us...and she's only gotten a tiny taste of that so far.

So I think my plan of attack now is to figure out a subtle way to get in contact with her and start going out again. My initial NC plan was to let her stew over the fact that she's thrown "the new us" away again in favor of this move, but if she feels that's what she needs to do as strongly as she does, as you say, there's nothing I can do to change that anyway. It's a do or die situation at this point. I will ponder today over how to best go about this and I will keep you all posted.