First post - My WAH story

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I only contacted H once this week, to ask him if I could drop by the house when he wasn't home, to collect some of my things. I need to go by another time to get another round of stuff, but I don't want to be contacting him again. It feels like I'm initiating too much then. However, I also don't want to just stop by without prior notice, as I feel that's a little disrespectful, even though technically the place still belongs to me too.

H hasn't initiated any contact, and so far there's no response to my lack of initiation to socialize. I know it's only been a week since I decided to do that, but I feel sorta meh that I haven't heard a peep from him. I also stopped checking in to places on Facebook (I used to do so 1-2 times a week, whenever I would go someplace fun or different). I wanted to do so numerous times this week, though I think it was really because I just wanted to show him that I'm getting out there and doing fine without him thankyouverymuch, but I realized that that's not a good reason to post on FB and I want him to wonder what I'm up to. Going dark is hard, especially when it's clear that detachment is still an area I need to work on. Sigh.

If (and this is a BIG if, based on his lack of response this week, but I want to be prepared for it in case it happens) he asks me to hang out and I decline, what do I say if he then asks what I'm doing instead? Do I answer honestly and completely, as I have been doing, since we agreed to always be honest with one another, even after our separation, or do I just answer vaguely? I don't know if being vague will bring me closer to my H or will push him away further, but I guess full disclosure hasn't been working really either, so it seems like vagueness is the answer.

Thoughts, anyone?