Wife having emotional affair part 2

[Casey]

Is she living with OM? I used to pursue and try to get conversations going with my WAW, and every time I could get her to talk or force her into responding I would see it as a positive. But I have had a moment of clarity recently; a vision on the road to Damascus so-to-speak; and I realize that I cannot out-compete the OM. I am not a BS artist and OMs are Picasso's and Rembrandt s when it comes to painting with BS. What I can do is make it absolutely clear that as long as their is a R going on with an OM, then there is no friendship with me. And I can work on improving myself for my next W. Because once you see it as over and what you do is not for her but for your sanity then you can truly detach. Maybe your W will wake up and come back to you to try and repair the M but you have to accept that you are moving on with your life regardless of what W does or doesn't do. Your WAW does not have to be punished but she has to realize that continuing one course of action means the loss of a R with you.

I think you should look to your oldest for inspiration. He has stated that he is so unhappy over your W's choices that he refuses to take part in giving legitimacy to the farce. If the financial aspects are worrying W and putting stress on her then turn up the temperature every chance you get. Make her see that her actions have consequences and one of them is losing her R with you and her children who do not want part of that madness.