This is terrifying - I hope you understand

[Shakspr]

Thanks to all who have responded, (and read my minor opus.)

It has gotten pretty bad, pretty fast. W filed divorce petition yesterday. Handed me all the uncontested divorce stuff today. She is offering me a pretty sweetheart deal all things considered. After 14 years of marriage she could be asking for more in alimony than she'll get in child support. She wants none of it, just her car and half my 401K up to this point (which isn't all that much.) 60/40 visitation (basically extended weekends 1/3/5.) Time with my stepson(from her 2nd marriage)because even she sees me as a good Dad. I've been in the SS15's life since he was one.

I mention all this to say, she isn't spiteful or hateful. She just can't see a future for us. I know this isn't pure DB/DR technique, but since part of the problem was that I didn't show enough emotion at the right times, I was very emotional today. NOT loud. Just...well...vulnerable. She understands, says she's hurting too and she "didn't just come to this conclusion overnight." I did let her know that if she decides to change her mind, that I will only be overjoyed. I live in the present and the future. Lord knows my WAW can't remember any of the good stuff from the past right now.

I know miracles happen. I am still committed to our marriage. But if I contest this, the only party who gets a good deal is a couple of lawyers. So I am trying to be more than equitable and develop a friendship that will allow us to co-parent well. Again, trying to show my best sides. But guys, she's almost definitely walking. I can only hope (1% of 1%!!!) that a day comes when she points her feet back my way.

Shakspr