As you can imagine, I've given this some thought. I appreciate the input from everyone. I think I have decided that I will tell my W that the kids have expressed interest in both of us spending less time on our phones ( I don't use mind around kids anyways, but she doesn't need to know that). I'm going to say I'm going to work on that, she can do what she likes.
I will be direct and tell her our S8 is reading her texts and asked me about it, so she may want to change that, expressing my concern for our S, not trying to control her.
Thanks so much everyone for your insight and time. Not going to see her or communicate for two more days, so I can think about it still.
