(Gee, do you think anyone noticed this on the board? )
Are you saying I should present wants too? My "wants" don't hinge on him, really. Not at the moment. He certainly can't meet much of my relationship "wants" at the moment.
Seems like my needs are enough to contend with. But OK... ------------------------------------
I also need to keep it non-emotional, do my validating, listening.
I will avoid any discussion about him living here.
If he brings it up, I will say simply that I agree that is an option, but we should talk another time about how that might look.
I want to hear his suggestions first for dealing with the major issues. I have my list of possible solutions. We do not have to decide anything tomorrow, just open the discussion.
I am prepared for his usual---"Well, what do YOU want to do?" tactic.
If so, I can say, "I've thought of this, that, and the other thing. Which do you think would work best?"
Ugghhhh... I have a problem with memorization. I'm better if I write a letter and read it to him!
---GGG
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
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