Here's my 2cents. You know she was in this phase before, and found the OM. If you open her arms, and make her comfortable she will have something that she has to leave. When she gets to FL there will be a hole in her self esteem, in her heart where you were before.

I'm not a vet here, and hell I screw stuff up all the time. But that is my 2 cents.

Me: 35
Her: 33
D : 16
S : 9
Together: 14 years
Married: 12
She left 4/14/2014
Separated: 5/25/2014
OM Confirmed 7/2014
She filed 8/7/2014
I Filed 10/21/2014
Divorce final 2/12/2015