At the end of the day, my goals with my Ex are to: These are YOUR goals. That says a lot right there.
1) Dissolve the emotional blockage that I've caused through the affair Whose blockage are we talking about here? Yours? 2) Make her feel heard and understood Your letter will not achieve it at all as it stands. The feedback you got from your friend...is from her perspective. She isn't Julia at all. 3) Begin a back and forth that allows her to feel safe and attracted to me again What makes you think this will happen? Have you gazed at that crystal ball?
Right? Isn't that what we're trying to do here? And if none of that is ever going to work, I need to move on with my life.
DB,
It is ALL ABOUT YOU and getting that fix from your Antsy Pantsy that is filled with fear and anxiety. You want relief from it. From what I see you, it isn't about Julia at all. It is all ABOUT YOU and how you're feeling.
You're feelings are clouding your judgement big time!
You write the letter then burn it, set aside, rip it...but DO NOT send it to her. You can do this as a part of the cathartic process for YOU. Get all of those emotions out.
I've written similar letters to Ms. Wonka and I've never sent them to her. They've been written, re-written, set aside, shredded and burned. She's never seen them ever.
