I can only speak with certainty for myself, but I would imagine it is true for other men that being out of shape and overweight hurts a guy's self confidence a lot. I can recall that when I was in shape my confidence was through the roof, almost to the point of arrogance. That was when I really started noticing flirting from other women and started flirting back; it is enormously flattering when you realize the opposite sex finds you attractive.
I think a big part of fixing my M has to do with fixing my perception of myself. In fact, I think it is almost all about fixing myself. If my W decides to come along then that is her choice but I have no control over that. At the end of the day, changing myself is really all I can control.
Me37, W30, S7 Married 10yrs 05/11/04 ILYBINILWY 22/09/13 Disc. OM1 26/09/13 Disc. STD from OM2 03/02/14 Affair Confession 21/06/14
W and I share same apartment (for a few more days). W isn't pushing for D.
