raliced, I never considered the hot potato drop off. Thanks for that perspective. I needed that smack to the head in your ever-so-gentle way.
That's my point about the bike thing. If we're divorced, he'd buy her a bike for his house and I'd buy her a bike for my house, right? I don't actually know but he wouldn't be there. This is what I mean by his wanting to play family. He genuinely thinks we'll have Thanksgiving and other holidays as a family into perpetuity.
I talked to my BFF about this. Her parents were divorced when she was 12 and while it was very amicable she said it's silly to think that holidays and birthdays won't be split. Of course they will be; that's the nature of divorce and why the children suffer so much. Why is our divorce going to be so different from everyone else's and pretend to be a big happy family except live separately??!! He seems to forget that if our marriage was dysfunctional, divorce isn't going to be some HUGE expression of health! What is he thinking?!\
I apologized to him about not including him but looking back I was careful to state that I didn't just buy the bike as a back stab and that I was sorry if it came off that way so I think I did pretty good.
