Nitty in a Nutshell (Help! I'm in a nutshell!)

[HopeTex]

Nitty, seems like you and I are in a similar boat, we don't want our WAS to actually move forward with the divorce but we also hate the prospect of just dangling here waiting to see whether the axe will fall. It must be pretty nice being the WAS, I imagine they do have chaos and confusion in their lives but it seems like it wouldn't be as near as hard as what we are going through. I have to keep reminded myself that my WAW just isn't feeling the same pain as I am, or at least the same type. She has convinced here self that the M is crappy and expendable and that life will be better on the other side. It hurts but I have to remember that (at least for now) she doesn't have the same affection and longing for me that I do for her. So when she sends me a text asking how I am doing or when I get home she asks me how my day was, I am wrong to think this is some type of romance rekindling. At this point, it is probably her just trying to be cordial and transition me into the "We are friendly and cordial ex-spouses" zone. So I can't get unrealistic hopes for now. For now I have to detach, detach, detach, GAL GAL GAL, Act as if, Act as if, Act as if. Any type of rekindling will be months and months down the road. And I think we have to accept that little texts or gestures from them at this point are not signs of rekindling. I imagine that if and when they ever change their mind and decide they want us back, they are going to make it much more obvious. Just some random thoughts...