Don't you think you were in denial about the PA? B/c you always said that would be the deal breaker....and yet you knew if you were faced with the truth about the A, you would be backed against the wall. As long as she would not admit it was PA, you could go on believing it wasn't.
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What's going to be difficult is sticking to my boundary should I receive a wishy washy response (or no response at all). If she doesn't reply in a black or white, yes/no type of way, but instead an 'I need more time...let's maybe try dating...or I'm not sure how I feel.' I know I may struggle with moving forward with initiating D should I receive anything but an 'I'm ending OM contact, let's work on our R' response.
Reacting on your emotional state and sticking to what you tell her has been your biggest problem since the beginning. You have to stop being wishy-washy Tarheel. She has learned over years how this works with you, so she bids for more time by not giving black & white answers. And honestly, I think that's why you know her well enough to bank on her response to your deadline Sunday. You know each other well.
Get your big boy britches unpacked. You may need several pair.
(Btw Wonka, thanks for writing about the usage of the word "but" and how it negates what we previously say in a sentence. I have probably been guilty of misusing that little conjunction many times. This reminds me to be more aware of my but. )
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
