Parents can be difficult, right? Sometimes I look at my own kids and wonder how they will *see* me. I don't claim to be an expert on parental relationships and I had an excellent relationship with my Dad. However, my mom is a challenge. She used to greet me with "how much do you weigh?" or when we had guests as a kid, she would pull out the scale for everyone to weigh. Sounds like more fun than some Direction.
I think one school of thought that has helped is realizing there just her. It doesn't make it easier and it doesn't make her phrases (much more here I won't post) right or appropriate, rather they are just hers. I know she loves me- she simply cannot relate to me. I don't control her thoughts or actions, only how I respond. However, I have no problem saying, "mom, the kids are going through a great deal so I don't feel it is appropriate to make d and the ss stand on the scale. I'm sure you understand that this has been stressful." You can maintain boundaries. It's tough.
As Wonka said, you don't have to accept every offer. Just because an opportunity arises doesn't mean you should take it. I do realize you are anxious for change, although I think many doors are opening for you. Keep your eyes open so you can *see* them.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
