Shining and Ss- thanks for the encouragement and the advice. Sometimes I get so excited about positives I over analyze when really I just need to be myself and let it unfold.
Shining there is no OW, though there was an EA with our neighbor/friend/H's employee for 2 years from 2012 to earlier this year. That was hard enough and I thoroughly admire those of you dealing with a PA/OW. I don't know that I would he strong enough to deal with that. That said this person he had an EA with will always be in our lives as our kids are best friends and they live next door. It gets complicated some days as I am friends with her too and I know it wasn't an on purpose thing- they just started leaning on each other emotionally when marriage troubles were going on. But I know I'm still guarded around her.
So next week I am off to my much needed girls cruise. H is going to stay at my (our) house for the week with S19, S16, andS7. I will get some much needed relaxation and break from the drama- and maybe H will get a taste of all the little things he misses with the kids. Even though he is over a lot and they periodically stay with him- the interactions aren't the same.
Me 41 H 40 M 20 T 23 S 19,16, 8 D 13 BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015 Life is about daring greatly, about being in the arena- Brene Brown
