Kgirl, I think we cycle through "what a douche" and "I miss him so" -- sometimes in the same day!
Nothing is final. He doesn't even know if he wants to divorce. It's SO not final.
WRT the cat, when you're ready to know what you want a little more, it might be worth while to think strategically about what you communicate with him. He's weird with the "not your business" thing, but that suggests a hot-button issue as much as pursuer-distancer (of course I only have the one example so...)
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
