I felt the same way re my h about a month ago, but could not act in haste re my child (who went through major change before the mlc event). I know what you mean re: - having to do everything - the WAW/MLC hanging around re: lack of choice > $$ - room for contempt is 'compounded' because space is shared ...
I have often felt that I am 'shooting myself in the foot' - working for someone who hates me & is USING me. You're on a 'different spot' on the grid in comp. to me, so your approach at this time must be suited to your goals, your plans (although our sitch[s] are similar).
The more seasoned DBers will help you here. Take care, p.
pbetra ---- M: 15 yrs (in 2014) BD: 6/03/2014 Infidelity ('known' from July 2014) Denied PA Feb 2015 2 leave Mar 2015 (left early Summer). Some contact. Back briefly 2017 (after family death) Separated 2017