So here is one I bet no one has ever heard before.
W- " I never intended for the EA to become a PA but when you told me that an EA is as bad as a PA I figured what the hey..."
Or another one
W- " you were not treating me well you called me a beatch etc et long before my EA...."
Ox- " well did you ever think that it was in response to all the emotional abuse you dished at me?"
W- " don.t go there don't you go there, you should only know what you put me through"
Ox- " well I refuse to live in an open marriage I am not willing to share my wife with an OM" W- " well I am sorry I am not ready to end communication with OM and you can't make me"
Ox---" I am not trying to make you do anything "
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So now that I laid down my boundaries to my WS she tells me she's not ready to decide but she's not leaving me, the kids or the house and I can't make her..
You have not laid down any boundaries. You expressed a pious wish and she ignored it.
You can't make her do anything, but you can do something for yourself. File for divorce. Then she'll decide that you won't live in an open marriage.
Most everyone who has posted on your new thread has hinted at filing for divorce as the right way to go. After you file the next move is up to her. If she insists on her right to see the OM, that's it.
Don't listen to any nonsense about your kids. She is leaving them, you are not taking them away from her.
