Dealing with ongoing affair -which may now be over

[PeterV2]

Sandi, what she wants me to do is put the apology in writing. She feels that me just saying I'm sorry is not allowing her to release and forgive. So I'll put it in the letter and if that doesn't give her closure and allow her to forgive and move on then I don't know what I'll do. I guess I could say, ok, now it's your turn to apologize to me. And I want it in writing. But I don't think this is a game of tit for tat. Or I could go through a course with her on Forgiveness which I got from Dr Dana Fillmore.

As for her being with OM, I remember when I knew she was with him, the next day she would have a panic attack. It was like clockwork. Very predictable. Probably due to guilt. She hasn't had a panic attack for a while and that's why I think the A may be over.