"I guess what amazes me is that I know OM treats her far worse than me when they re in spats. Even the MC says my WW seems to see abuse as love."
-this statement is entirely from your (or ICs) perspective. and may be based on untruths she's told you and others. it may be fun to think about, and helps your feel better, but its meaningless.
when people dont get the level of attention they need from their spouse, they'll get it from somewhere else, even if its seen as abusive. which may help explain her choices if your deek head behavior included ignoring her.
again, irrelevant.
chances are, you'll never know for sure. and if you knew, you may not accept it.
focus on you. fix yourself, prepare yourself. be a man. raise your sons, work on your self-pride and value.
You sound like the MC
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
