I agree with Sandi,That is a major thing if she is talking to a DB coach. DON'T GIVE UP!!
I have asked my W to speak with my DB coach and she said she would after we are D.
I call my coach a "life coach" when I asked my W to call. If my W was willing to talk with her, I feel things would be better between us even if we don't R and maybe it would help my W seek IC.
That is a very positive sign IMHO
Hang in there!!
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014