The patience I was referring to was regarding the school thing. I know for sure that the M thing is going to take a TON of patience.
Regarding the "ruined everything" comments, your thoughts are similar to my C's. She said, validate the things that were my doing, but don't agree with, or try to argue against, anything that isn't my fault.
I totally get what you're saying about the absurdity of the EA. Funny thing is, I wasn't pursuing it as a R, just as a friendship. It progressed past just friends because I let it fill the void left by my W. Lesson learned about slowing down, not making rash decisions, and thinking about what repercussions my actions will have.
That is all become old news to me, since then I have refocused on the needs of my kids and on being ok with myself.
On the mind reading, I've had all of those other thoughts as well, many confirmed by my W's words. All I know is I didn't know that my W was anything other than 100% certain until AFTER she found out. I'm not trying to belabor the point further, just trying to move from regret to growth.
As far as the 180s. Losing weight, exercising = major! Doing more around the house and as much as I can w/out being asked to. When asked to, doing it gladly instead of grudgingly. Being more upbeat in general. Trying to do the 180s I can sustain long-term.
GAL. More challenging. Trying to reconnect w/ friends, joining soccer league. It's hard because I'm not that outgoing and just the idea of trying to squeeze in more social time along w/ everything else exhausts me.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
