I am actively trying to improve myself, look deep and improve my faults. So I can become a better person. This is something that I want For myself and hopefully us. This is what I am doing.
Look, you can't have those conversations with her. You can't be explaining how you are working to improve yourself. Let her think whatever she wants to think about you turning your phone over. Certainly do not come back later to discuss or ask why she said what she did and quickly assuring her where you stand.
It helps if the LBH has an air of some mystery. It would be a good thing if she was interested enough about your phone activity to "wonder" about it. Even MWD says to be a little mysterious sometimes. I'm not saying to lie or try to deceive her to think you are having an A or something. But why do you feel you have to explain what you do? This seems to be common among several LBH's when they first arrive, so hopefully you will stop explaining your actions to her.
Your WAW should see her LBH having a carefree attitude about her statements, instead of making a big deal about it. B/c when a man make a big deal out of something like that......it makes him appear like a Jr. High School drama queen. He needs to be cool and not affected by what she might be thinking about his actions. That is a sign he has detached, when these little things do not bug him....and he doesn't feel the need to justify himself to her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
