Hang in there Lisa. I think friends is better than enemies. Anything that allows you to keep moving your H's interactions in a positive direction is good. Good feelings after seeing you can't be bad.

I think you're doing great.

Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.