It's not just you, Train -- I was honest with my kids too (in an age-appropriate way). It's stunning to me how that can even be controversial. And my wife IS a hero to them, especially our adult daughters, because they saw her -- flaws and all -- ultimately decide to do the right thing and work hatd to restore her marriage and her family.
Dev, I would err on the side of protecting your kids. Say something like "Look I'm only going to say this once, but it upsets the kids when you text OM where they can see you. What you do on your own time is your business, but I'm sure we can agree that we need to protect the kids thru this mess. And for GOD's sake, LOCK YOUR PHONE. NO child should have to read texts from their mother to her boyfriend. "
