Daring, this sounds so positive!! You seemed to hold your ground very well. I especially liked what you said that you 'make the decision whether to let anyone in'.
He is making some observations and seems to be processing....but still some odd comments, yes? I couldn't find anywhere in this thread, but does your H have ow? I hope not and that you're one of the lucky ones .
IMHO I don't think opening the door more would make much difference here. It seems he knows you're still there for him, at least for now.
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