What I'm meant by the "butterfly effect" and how it relates to people's interactions is ...
People tend to establish a pattern in how they interact with others, similar to the way air current will set up weather patterns. If left undisturbed, the pattern could possibly go on forever. From this cycle, others start to expect you to take certain actions and even anticipate them. Of late in a WAS's mind, those expectations are based on their memory of a negitive pattern.
Your 180's are like the effect a butterfly's wings has on disturbing the air currents. Which in time changes the weather around the world. Unnoticable at first, but in time your H notices your interactions are no longer what he has come to expect. And typically, when changes are made that are positive (like you showing an interest in shopping for a new car with him), they tend to influence other changes in a positive manner.
By keeping the positive changes going, what first caught H by surprise (as I susupect happend last Tues & Wed.) , he will start to come to expect as the "new" pattern the will tend to draw him yet even closer.
Really, Holdingon, it just a fancy way of saying ... Patience! While the butterfly may cause the world's weather to change, it doesn't happen overnite ... even the next day, but it does happen somewhere down the road.
