I'm not sure I explained myself properly, based on your response. He actually does contact me.. in fact, he is the one keeping the line of communication open, in a sense. I don't email him unless he emails me, and I never ask questions. He *does* ask questions, so I answer them. If he stops, I'll stop, I guess.
As for "without his love, you feel you are nothing." No, that's not quite right I feel pretty fine with myself. I don't have a lot of friends in this city.. (in fact, I have just one who I rarely see) but I am a very independent, introverted and shy person, so for the most part that doesn't bother me. I'm happy to do my own thing and that's what I do and have always done.
All I am feeling today is frustrated. It's not easy to switch off, even after 10 months of being apart. We were together for more than 10 years. I don't think it's unreasonable to still be attached to that relationship.. we made more memories than I know what to do with. We were best friends, truly.
I don't know if this is true but I get the impression that many of you think my relationship is a lost cause.. but I don't see why mine is any less salvageable than the rest of them.