Thanks again for all your input. I agree, I need to just keep it simple, STFU within reason and present the facts to her. I'm going to try to keep it as light and positive as I can and then hear her thoughts. If she's unwilling to discuss it then there's nothing I can do about that. I can't control her.
Wish me luck!
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS