Quote: While they seem like "leaps", they are more like great babysteps that are resulting from the "butterfly" effect of your actions. I'm not trying to burst your bubble here, but only trying to quell your urge to play leapfrog with H. I hope you don't take offense.
And I don't in anyway want to burst your bubble either! But, no matter what you see keep it at zero expectations! I talk from experience. Know that they are baby steps, but don't jump or it will scare your H back into the tunnel.
Example;
We had a scared cat who wouldn't come close to us. I would spend time going out with food and talking very quietly and encourgaging to the poor thing. When it showed signs of trust, I still "acted as if" it was still scared and did the same thing. In time this cat loved me was my buddy, hated men. I think the cat was abused, frankly.
My point; we should treat our H's the same; be their friend, encourage them by thanking them and showing we appreciate their shows of kindness. Let them lead. I know we get impatient, want to hurry things along when we see impovements. But, we have to put that new thing called PATIENCE into effect! So keep doing what is working and don't push, when they are ready to move to the next level they will let us know. Do action oriented goals. But, don't scare the heck out of him.
Remember I know you well, LMAO! I also know you are like a race horse at the gate. They didn't say go yet, LOL!
