Hi 2B, My Anniversary is coming up as well on the 21st. Last year W was still at home and she actually said "We could go out if you want. Just don't make a big deal out of it, OK?". Oh, yeah, just our 20th year M, no big deal there! I gave her a copy of our wedding video on DVD, she left it here when she moved out, just like her wedding dress (which she "loved" and treated like it was gold our whole M!).
It's just gets so old always having to be so very careful what we say and how we say it! Here they have ripped our lives and families apart, have said and done so many awful things and we're the ones that always have to be careful not to "hurt their poor MLC feelings". Find some way to "validate" the crazy things they say without totally debasing ourselves and sounding like the nutty thing they just said is just fine!
I know how hard it is when they are still at home, believe me. It's constant and you are always waiting for what's next. Hang in there 2B, you're going to get through this. Breath deep when he pulls his crazy out and always remember to take care of yourself!
