Stimulus-Response: The Experiment Continues

[GoatGal]

If we had children and Friday and Saturday nights were his nights to be with them so I could have a life, would it be OK for him to say:
"I'm not coming."?
Period.


That's what this is.

And I don't think it's OK.

He thinks because he pays the bills that I am just another employee and he can tell me what to do.
He acts like he's doing me a favor by "paying" for me to go out and GAL. He lets me know this.

Heck, he even said to me a few weeks back that the ONLY "excuse" I could use (to not be here to take care of everything ALONE) was if my mother was in the hospital.

Otherwise, he was just going to tell me he wasn't going to be here and I had to do what he is "paying" me for.

(He later retracted that somewhat, but this is his mindset on some days. Other days, not so much.)
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You all don't see that as a form of bullying me with his control of finances?
I sure do.

He need not tell me "why".
For all I know, he's in a support group or something. I have no idea.

But---
He just needs to stop treating me like he's my boss and can tell me what I can and can't do.
It's a matter of respect and I wouldn't tolerate it from anyone else.

Why should I take it from him?
Because I'm afraid of him cutting me off financially?

Pretty much, yup.

This is now about ME, not him.

He's a whole other mess...

And the fact that he doesn't live here because of decisions he made that were harmful to me IN NO WAY NEGATES THE NEED FOR HIM TO BE HERE TO HELP WITH THESE ANIMALS.

THEY ARE HIS AS MUCH AS MINE.

I am not "obligated" to do anything more, nor even stay here.
He can go it alone, as far as I care.
That's an option I might use when I get well and truly fed up.




---GGG