"it reminded me why I was getting ready to leave about 5 years ago!.."
This is key. and very very important for you to think about and own.
I would guess she sensed this, and for the years since has taken on this same feelings herself, hence the A.
and i say this because i was the same. i checked out of my M too, then partially came back, going through the motions with some improvements, but never fixed the issues.
when she dropped the bomb i was shocked - which was ridiculous - but it wasnt so much that i was surprised she did it, but it was then that i finally realized it went to the point of no return, there was no fixing it -- and i didnt want to admit this to myself.
its a tough realization, but your statement was very likely the trigger point that started this phase of the R.
She claims I stopped listening to her and became verbally abusive. The real truth is that all she did was nag and complain to me. Then she invited her dad to live with us and he moved in while I was out of town. It just went on and on!
When I threatened to leave she called me and begged me not to.
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
